Found this while trying to look up info on just what the preferred "standard Midwestern American" accent currently consists of.....seems to me the observation can apply to a lot more than just employee situations:

Riding a Dead Horse:

The tribal wisdom of the Dakota Indians, passed on from generation to generation, says that when you discover that you are riding a dead horse, the best strategy is to dismount. Modern organizations (education, government, military, etc.) often employ a whole range of far more advanced strategies, such as:

* Buying a stronger whip.
* Changing riders.
* Threatening the horse with termination.
* Appointing a committee to study the horse.
* Arranging to visit other countries to see how others
ride dead horses.
* Lowering the standards so that dead horses can be
included.
* Re-classifying the dead horse as ‘Living Impaired’.
* Hiring outside contractors to ride the dead horse.
* Harnessing several dead horses together to increase
the speed.
* Providing additional funding/or training to increase
the dead horse’s performance.
* Doing a productivity study to see if lighter riders
would improve the dead horse’s performance.
* Declaring that as the dead horse does not have to be
fed, it is less costly, carries lower overhead, and
therefore contributes substantially more to the bottom
line of the economy than do some other horses.
* Re-writing the expected performance requirements for
all horses.
* Promoting the dead horse to a management position.



I think "Re-writing the expected performance requirements for all horses" applies to the situation of the typical human animal burned in a courtship/mating experience, particularly if they continue trying to ride dead horses while they've convinced themself that live horses do not exist and "horse" automatically denotes "dead horse".

Or "deadbeat" instead of a dead beast......but yeah, you get the general idea.

As opposed to the philosophy of falling off a horse and getting back on, in which "horse" really denotes the entire field of both horses and horse-riding, whether individual or aggregate.....a similar though more nostalgic angle is that ''tis better to have ridden and fallen off than never ridden at all.'

And then there are those who stand in the middle of the battlefield imploring "A horse! a horse! my kingdom for a horse!" but have as of yet no idea how to deal with the reality of that for which they're willing to trade their whole integrity.

Yeah, yeah, I just had to drag Shakespeare into this.....and Tennyson......:P
After reading this link on picking up women, I'm just glad that I very very rarely go to bars and such where people are actually doing this stuff.  It's supposed to be "sincere" and not "cruel" but you're trying to "penetrate her bitch-shield"?  That's rather callous language.....but then, I suppose anyone who really chooses to study techniques to manipulate women into liking them isn't exactly going for something that deep, lasting or ultimately fulfilling on the individual level.  Especially if you're never supposed to take "her" words seriously or even listen to them compared to the primal rhythms and counter-beats of body language under the microscope.

But then, imho, anything addressed to picking up/controlling/satisfying "women"/"your woman" or"men"/"your man" is too crudely generalizing for me to want to have anything to do with -- afterall, we do come in all kinds and then some.  Best to consider whether a person's someone I really want to have anything to do with (i.e., some amount of listening to what they do say) before trying to lay on a certain type of prescribed pseudo-charm to worm under their defenses.  I can flirt and tease and do it quite well when I'm inclined, but it has on occasion temporarily landed me with women I should have thought twice about (and learned more about) as themselves, rather than just as being the most attractive opportunities for conquest and showing off my success.

No use just bein' able to catch the fish if it ain't the kind that'll feed your real needs, and vice versa.  Though, if all that's really wanted is a mutually-stringless fuck, it's probably as good a skill as anything (but in that case, why pretend to even be in possession of a personality?).

I can't stand dishonesty in people's relations with each other, particularly when there are so many crappy marriages/liaisons and children born unwittingly out of the assumption and maintenance of this "never the twain shall meet" dichotomy.  It makes me want to take the entire habitual readership of this kind of manual and just throw them into breeding ranges that happen to look like nightclubs (probably more for anthropological entertainment than for fertility purposes, but we'd harvest the kids anyhow, as they don't deserve to be actually reared by people who only hooked up 'cause some program or technique enabled one to snare the other, or both to sink in their indiscriminate claws). 

Somedays I just scorn 99.999% of humanity for acting like animals and not having the integrity to admit it. Not that everyone's the same kind of animal...but this is all pretty much lion-pride/ape-tribe behaviour, this trying to score and nice-guys-finish-last stuff.  Tigers don't dick around with socializing and status -- they mate when they're in the mood, and they don't waste time worrying about it when they're not.  Only humans are stuck in perpetual rutting behaviour running through the whole rest of their lives -- which, incidentally, is why most men tend to overestimate women's sexual interest in them, regardless of the actual scenario.  We're primed to see the potential of a situation, and that can wishfully blur what's actually going on.  And women, being mainly encouraged to be friendly at all times unless actually pissed/depressed enough to not maintain it, often wind up giving off "friendly & approachable" non-verbal signs that men pick up on regardless of actual interest -- and then sometimes insist are the only "real" attitude, and refuse to believe anything else.  Which is extremely offensive to assume...but then, there's always that type of chick who really gets off on having guys tease her and unsolicitedly tell her what she oughta do with her hair, makeup, clothes, etc., etc., without really listening to what she actually says atall.

Tricking/getting someone out of their defenses is no favour to them unless you’re certain you have something to give them of equal-or-better value in return...otherwise it’s just getting what you want and not really caring whether they get anything worthwhile out of the experience.  All the items that I’ve read in this line sound like things you do to someone you hate, or whom you’re trying to get hooked on you like a drug, with subterfuge and calculation and withholding and always angling for advantage.  Exactly at what point is real sincerity supposed to enter into any of this?  Or is it just a forbidden concept in the war between the sexes, something pushed away with a firm hand every time the author refers to women as thinking too much of themselves, as having “bitch-shields”, or as not to be listened to for what they say?

Wednesday, May 31, 2006
There is a Bomb in Gilead--and Hitler's giving medals...

Apparently this news didn't have a chance to register on my headline-radar from the other weekend, seeing as I was out of state visiting my fiancee....yeah, and she's pissed about it too. Shocked, appalled and both of us growling mad. Just for the record, we don't plan on having any children, though it seems that the conscious and deliberate intent of adults means approximately nada these days....

What I'm referring to, of course is this:


Forever Pregnant
Guidelines: Treat Nearly All Women as Pre-Pregnant


By January W. Payne
Washington Post Staff Writer
Tuesday, May 16, 2006; Page HE01


New federal guidelines ask all females capable of conceiving a baby to treat themselves -- and to be treated by the health care system -- as pre-pregnant, regardless of whether they plan to get pregnant anytime soon.
Among other things, this means all women between first menstrual period and menopause should take folic acid supplements, refrain from smoking, maintain a healthy weight and keep chronic conditions such as asthma and diabetes under control.

While most of these recommendations are well known to women who are pregnant or seeking to get pregnant, experts say it's important that women follow this advice throughout their reproductive lives, because about half of pregnancies are unplanned and so much damage can be done to a fetus between conception and the time the pregnancy is confirmed.


[..Statistics on infant mortality and low prenatal health conditions...yeah, that's a big problem for a supposedly-developed country, not denying that...]

Preconception care should be delivered by any doctor a patient sees -- from her primary care physician to her gynecologist. It involves developing a "reproductive health plan" that details if and when children are planned, said Janis Biermann, a report co-author and vice president for education and health promotion at the March of Dimes.
[....Okay, here comes the really really pressuring part, though---]

Experts acknowledge that women with no plans to get pregnant in the near future may resist preconception care.
"We know that women -- unless you're actively planning [a pregnancy], . . . she doesn't want to talk about it," Biermann said. So clinicians must find a "way to do this and not scare women," by promoting preconception care as part of standard women's health care, she said.




Nolite te bastardes carborundorum.
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http://aureantesrealm.blogspot.com/2006/05/there-is-bomb-in-gilead-and-hitlers.html (aka previous blogpost)]

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